Why People In Healthy Relationships Don’t Sugarcoat

superadmin - 24th July 2014

In order to have healthy relationships you need to say exactly how you feel at the moment you feel it. I have a good friend who was in the midst of ending a relationship several years ago. We have all been there – fortunately or unfortunately.  In her particular case, I was amazed at how much relationships, and ending relationships, had become part of the technology age. Instead of calling on the phone or meeting in person to work out the details, it was all taking place online via Email or text. One afternoon I happened to speak with my friend after she had just sent a very direct, pointed, specific and possibly defensive email and she said, “I told him in no uncertain terms how I felt period…send!”  I loved that!  Say exactly what you feel, period…send. Hold back nothing, period…send!  Say it like you mean it period…send! This is the key to having healthy relationships, not only romantic relationships, but also friendships.

I think about that a lot in situations in which I want to live my life with no later regrets. To me “period…send!” says it all.  I want you to know exactly where I am, what I am thinking, positive or negative, as I try to live my life with no regrets. In order to have healthy relationships you need to put it all out there on the table and deal with the issues – good and not so good – once and for all. It isn’t worth harboring thoughts, wishes, should have’s or could have’s, or sugarcoating. You need to deal with it.  Since that day on the phone with my friend, I have tried to foster healthy relationships with everyone I know by speaking honestly yet respectfully, by dealing with people directly versus sideways, and by saying what I feel without stooping down to low blows.  Simply to call it as I see it and to follow through with no regrets, period…send!

I encourage you to give it a try! I believe you will find it refreshing as you continue to create healthy relationships that last a lifetime.

Now...who do I owe an email to?

Take Special Care,

Tracy